4 Years & An Update

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Four years. Some days, it feels like so much longer. But most days, like today, I look back and wonder – where did the past four years go?

I look back on our wedding pictures as the memories get more distant and see two very young people. You can see the innocence in our eyes, and I love it. Because that’s how a wedding day should be. Full of light, joy, life, and innocence. We had no idea what was coming. Not even a clue how to do life together. Yet we were blissfully happy and in love, and in God’s graciousness we continue to feel that way four years later. Continue reading “4 Years & An Update”

Our Purpose and Privilege in Marriage

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Marriage is such a sweet reminder of and the closest example we have to how Christ loves his bride – the church. This creates a beautiful purpose in marriage, and it is a unique privilege we have as married couples to honor and love our spouses, and to learn and experience Christ’s love for us.  Ultimately, it isn’t about us or our spouse – it’s about Christ.

I am by no means a pro at this married-life thing!  But God has certainly softened my heart and changed my perspective on marriage in the past 3 1/2 years. As I have grown into my role as “wife” God has very clearly shown me that this isn’t about me or about my husband. It’s about his love for us and his love for his bride, the church.

God has purpose for us as husbands and wives. And it is a privilege to be called to walk alongside our spouse in the messiness and brokenness of life and together see the beauty that comes from pursuing Christ wholeheartedly.

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To the Beach!

Last week we (mom, dad, sister, hubs, me) spent a week at the beach! I don’t post a lot about our personal lives because that’s not what this blog is about. BUT I do want to encourage you…to get away! I am blessed with a family that values time away from real life and time spent with each other. Some of my sweetest memories are from vacations with my family and I don’t take for granted the times we get together and the fact that we all truly enjoy this time spent together. We love each other and love spending time together. It’s even sweeter to spend a week together now that we don’t all live together!

Whether it’s just a trip to a nearby town for a night or a week long vacation to an exotic location, intentional time with family is so important! Keep reading for a few pictures of our week together! Continue reading “To the Beach!”

Year {Three} Lessons

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{Three} beautiful years of marriage. Redemption. Blessings. Loving like Jesus. Choosing to forgive. Learning to trust. Letting go of control. Perspective. Grace.

Grace upon grace up grace.

Many married and singles gave my husband and I advice prior to marriage and we’ve given some advice since getting married to those about to embark on this exciting journey. And while it was all good, well-meaning and full of truth, you just don’t know until you are there.

You don’t know how to process hurt. You don’t know how to rebuild trust. You don’t know how to love unconditionally. You don’t know forgiveness and grace.

And I’m still learning. But I’ve also learned.

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A wife’s perspective on seminary

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I knew before Eldon and I were married that our lives would be involved in ministry in some capacity, as he is a gifted worship leader (I may be biased…but the Lord works in great ways through his music!) and has always wanted to pursue ministry and leadership in the church. That being said, I never imagined I’d be in this season. Until recently I haven’t felt worthy or called to this life. But God is good and he has a purpose for all of us, planned an orchestrated from before we were formed in the womb. I can see now how God was using my circumstances to shape and mold me to be a strong, grounded, and supported wife and helper (who still needs a whole lot of grace) and to ultimately love others in a way that furthers the kingdom of God. God has been opening my eyes to the unique ways he can use both myself and Eldon and I as a married couple. I feel burdened to joyfully and wholly pursue ministry in whatever capacity he has for us, and I can say with no reservation that I am ready to come beside my husband in his ministry as well, no matter how “big or small” that may look. Continue reading “A wife’s perspective on seminary”

Intentional Conversation Starters

Many of you have come to Our Simply Abundant Life through this post via Pinterest – welcome! I am so glad you are here. Please check out my about page, our story  (the reason why I started this blog) and some of my other popular posts here and here! I hope you are encouraged and pointed to Jesus as you read the words he has put on my heart!


Conversation starters

So you’ve found some time with your spouse folding laundry, riding in the car, or grabbing a quick cup of coffee together. But then what. How do you turn these everyday bits of time into time that fills each other up emotionally? How to you connect and communicate on a deeper level when you are surrounded by the demands of life – work, kids, church, friends. For us, it is all about deciding to be intentional with our time. If I don’t decide that in the 30 minute car ride to community group, I am going to intentionally pursue my husband in conversation, we will resort to what is practical. Practical conversations need to happen (and there are times when they do happen in the car and over coffee) but so do intentional ones. Sometimes my husband and I find ourselves venturing into deeper conversation without much thought, and other times we both need it but it’s just hard to get there. Now..if I am going to be completely honest here, I have to tell you that I’ve never used these “conversation starters” before.  We ask each other questions like this from time to time, but sometimes we just get stuck in a rut! Keep reading for 20 intentional conversational starters to go deeper in conversation with your spouse!

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10 Ideas for Busy Couples to Spend Intentional Time Together

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We all know the importance of spending intentional time with our spouses/significant others. And we’ve all heard that weekly/monthly/scheduled date nights are a staple of healthy marriages. But that is so. much. pressure.

Let me admit to something — my husband and I don’t have a weekly date night. It’s not in my calendar, we haven’t carved out time every week that stands alone, and we don’t spend extraneous amounts of time planning and preparing for time together. In fact, sometimes we go a month or more without “going out” on a pre-planned, orchestrated date night. That’s just the season we are in right now, and the sooner I learned to accept that (and lower my expectations) the better the time we do find together is. And you know what – I still love my husband. He still loves me! And we still find ourselves being intentional about time together. It just looks much different from the cookie cutter “weekly date night”.

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