My family traveled to Estes Park, Colorado last summer. If you have ever lost your breath at the beauty and majesty of the ocean, you need to experience the mountains too. Never have I been so awed by and so convinced of God’s existence, creation, and unconditional love. Everywhere you look, there are breathtaking views. The beauty expands far beyond what the eye can see and the view never gets old. Mountains that tower over you and pools of water that reflect the bright green landscape and clear blue skies offer you a glimpse of God’s love for us at every turn. It was humbling and exciting at the same time.
I was constantly reminded of Psalm 95:3-4
“3 For the Lord is the great God,
the great King above all gods.
4 In his hand are the depths of the earth,
and the mountain peaks belong to him.”
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So you’ve found some time with your spouse folding laundry, riding in the car, or grabbing a quick cup of coffee together. But then what. How do you turn these everyday bits of time into time that fills each other up emotionally? How to you connect and communicate on a deeper level when you are surrounded by the demands of life – work, kids, church, friends. For us, it is all about deciding to be intentional with our time. If I don’t decide that in the 30 minute car ride to community group, I am going to intentionally pursue my husband in conversation, we will resort to what is practical. Practical conversations need to happen (and there are times when they do happen in the car and over coffee) but so do intentional ones. Sometimes my husband and I find ourselves venturing into deeper conversation without much thought, and other times we both need it but it’s just hard to get there. Now..if I am going to be completely honest here, I have to tell you that I’ve never used these “conversation starters” before. We ask each other questions like this from time to time, but sometimes we just get stuck in a rut! Keep reading for 20 intentional conversational starters to go deeper in conversation with your spouse!
We all know the importance of spending intentional time with our spouses/significant others. And we’ve all heard that weekly/monthly/scheduled date nights are a staple of healthy marriages. But that is so. much. pressure.
Let me admit to something — my husband and I don’t have a weekly date night. It’s not in my calendar, we haven’t carved out time every week that stands alone, and we don’t spend extraneous amounts of time planning and preparing for time together. In fact, sometimes we go a month or more without “going out” on a pre-planned, orchestrated date night. That’s just the season we are in right now, and the sooner I learned to accept that (and lower my expectations) the better the time we do find together is. And you know what – I still love my husband. He still loves me! And we still find ourselves being intentional about time together. It just looks much different from the cookie cutter “weekly date night”.